Yesterday I had to take my little monkey to get vaccinated. He went to school for some of the morning but I decided to keep him after the vaccinations and have a lunch date with him. It is so nice to have on-to-one time with my children but I don’t always get the chance. I love the chats, the stories they tell, and it always surprises me how much they love it too, having your undivided attention, making jokes and taking photos – it really is the little things. Having more one-to-one quality time with my boys (all 3 of them) was one of my 2015 goals and I am constantly trying to make time for it. It is so much fun and it is strengthening the bonds between all of us.
We all lead such busy lives and between school runs, work, extra curriculum activities and social events (my kids have a better social life than me!), sometimes we forget to just sit down, put your feet up and take a breath or two.
Another one of my goals was to take 15 minutes a day for myself. I have to admit that I have been neglecting this one for a while. When I am on my own, I try to get as much done (cleaning, washing, clothes, shopping, cooking…) in order to have more free time when the boys and Mr B are home so we all get to relax. Although that is a noble idea (even if I say so myself ;-)) it usually leaves very little time for me – for me to have some time to do my meditation, to take a breath or two, to just read an article… to be me, to do nothing being me, not mum, not a wife, not a stay a working at home woman, but just me.
For some reason I always find it hard to justify having time to myself. I tend to feel guilty and I always think that there is something else I could be doing rather than having a cup of coffee, but I have learning to accept that drinking a cup of coffee with 2 hands, makes me better, helps me slow down and start my day with a good attitude and great energy that carries me to the end of the day being more patient, more relaxed and less frazzled.
So for the last week, after the morning rush of getting breakfast ready, dishwashers emptied, beds made, uniforms organised, lunches packed, hairs brushed (only sometimes…) and faces cleaned, after all that, when the boys go, I get a fresh cup of coffee, grab a recipe book, a magazine or my kindle and I sit down at my kitchen table for 15 minutes enjoying my read, enjoying my hot cup of coffee and drinking it to the end. It is amazing how much good those 15 minutes do for me, in helping me face the day with positive energy.
I would imagine that everyone would enjoy having 15 minutes to oneself but it looks impossible. 15 minutes is just 1/96 of a day, it is a tiny amount of time. So whether you are at work or at home, take 15 minutes to go for a walk, or 15 minutes to have a nice chat with your favorite colleague or friend, or 15 minutes to get a cup of coffee and catch up on the sports reviews, whatever you are into, whatever takes your fancy.
Take some time for yourself, it can only do you some good (caffeine is optional).
Have a great day,